Many people dream of helping families as a doula, and I get all kinds of people reaching out to me about what it is actually like to be a doula full-time. I am hosting a DONA approved birth doula training here in Evansville at the very end of February (that you can sign up for here), so these messages are most definitely more frequent right now. I absolutely LOVE my job and wouldn’t want to do anything else, but this is most definitely not the right fit for everyone. I want people to know what they are getting into, and some of the harsher realities of doula life.
Being a birth doula is tough. Yes, it is really rewarding and sometimes exciting and beautiful, but the reality of it can be really hard. Being on call can be rough, especially needing childcare at any moment (if you have kids) and having to drop your life to go help someone else. All of your plans end in, “as long as I’m not at a birth” and you have to plan your time out so carefully if you want to leave town, not to mention have a really great back-up doula to cover your clients just in case someone goes into labor unexpectedly. Not planning your calendar in advance or paying attention to when potential clients are due before they hire you means that you could be on call for 6 months straight, and that is NOT easy or fun.
Being on call can be one of the hardest parts of the job; I’ve even heard doulas say that they would attend births for free but really want to be paid for the trouble of being on call for possibly 4 weeks straight. Being on-call means that I have a client who is within their due window (38-42 weeks pregnant), and that I can’t do some things like leave town or drink alcohol. When I am on-call I have to have my doula bag ready. I have my doula clothes in a neat pile waiting for the call to come join my clients. I can’t go to bed without making sure my phone is turned up and ready, and I can’t be far from my phone at all ever really. It is impossible to predict when someone will go into labor, believe me that if I could, I would be a VERY rich person. If you want a completely predictable work schedule, then you should not be a birth doula.
I think the biggest mistake people make is treating doula work like it isn’t a job. It is a definite job and if you want to be successful at it, you have got to work at it like any good business owner! This means networking, marketing, accounting, legal paperwork, records, etc. If you want to do doula work as a hobby and aren’t looking to own a business, that is ok too. About half the people who take the birth doula training don’t even really want to run their own business or be a professional doula. Whether you are running your own doula business or just helping friends, if you are calling yourself a doula, you have GOT to be professional. That means working within the doula scope of practice and not causing a ruckus at the hospital because of unprofessional behavior. Your professional behavior reflects on all doulas, especially at the local level. I know that Robin will be covering all of this in the training here, so come learn!
I do not tell you all of the above to scare you, rather because I want everyone considering becoming a doula to really understand what they are getting into for their future. A great doula is an organized planner who is resourceful and empathetic with a good support system. Take a look in the mirror and really contemplate if this is the right path for you. If none of the above things have scared you away from wanting to do doula work, then you should definitely sign up for the upcoming training in Evansville. This is only the 2nd time Evansville has ever had a doula training located here, and we probably won’t have another one until 2020! Being a doula is one of the most rewarding and amazing jobs I could have ever dreamed of doing, and I sincerely love it with all my heart. I also sincerely believe that this area needs more doulas! Could that be you?